Where we’ve been and Where we’re going….

I've had a weird couple of days lately.  I've been forced to think about my life and the roads that lead me to where I am now in my life.  If you were to meet me today you would be shocked and not believed some of the things from my past.  Not that it was horrible or anything, I just went down the wrong road for a while. 

I guess what got me thinking about where I had been and the things I have done is a tragedy that happened over the weekend.  I first heard about it on Monday (this is a very small town and word travels fast).  A guy age 30 had been ran over with a truck after an altercation with some of the passengers in the truck and the 19 year old driver had been arrested.  All that were involved had been partying together.  Monday morning the guy was still alive, but passed later that day from head trauma.  When I heard the name of that guy, a wierd rush of feelings came over me.  This guy, is a guy who I use to be friends with, a guy I use to go to school with, I use to party and do drugs with and once had a crush on.  And now 9 long years later I see that I have moved on with my life and somehow he managed to be stuck on that wrong path.  I'm not saying I'm upset and crying about this but am sad that a life so young got trapped on that path and is no longer hear beacuse of it.  Although I'm not proud of my past, I have thought about all those crazy and good times I had with this guy.  I know he will be missed and my deepest sympathies for his family, now they have lost both sons. 

How far have you come and where are you going? 


Thursday Thirteen

Thirteen random things you never knew about mominprogress

  1.  I'm a natural Blonde, but am a brunette at the moment
  2. I have a love/hate relationship with my job.
  3. I'd love to be able to go back to school to become an RN
  4. I moved out on my own when I was 17 years old.
  5. My mother and I don't have a very good relationship.
  6. I took the "wrong path" in my life but when I got pregnant with my oldest daughter she turned my life around.
  7. My first car was a VW Quantum.
  8. I love classic rock, alternative rock and hard rock.
  9. My kids hate my taste in music.
  10. Sometimes I feel like I'm not good enough.
  11. I've been married before.
  12. I didn't have any children with my ex-husband.
  13. I still have a bestfriend that I've known since kindergarten.

Links to other Thursday Thirteens! (Leave a comment with your link and I'll put it here)

  1. Carmen
  2. Wenchy
  3. mama kelley 
  4. Kendra 
  5. Chaotic Mom
  6. Wystful1
  7. Leanne
  8. Christina
  9. PixiePrincessMom
  10. Anele
  11. Lauren
  12. KellyNello
  13. Susan
  14. the Schooligan
  15. Denise
  16. Magically Mama
  17. mar
  18. Shannon
  19. your next!

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The Russian Mafia returns….

Since this is a fairly new blog you may not know the back-story, but don't worry we'll get to that.

As you know I am a paralegal and work for an office that does 99% divorce cases.  Yes I know you all are thinking that all attorney's are bloodsucking money hungry leeches.  And yes my friend, we are no different at my office, we are just as blood sucking and money hungry as the rest of them.  One thing I've figured out is that people hate for you to tell them that you need money or you won't help them.  Especially in times when emotions are running high. 

So on with the story…… not so long ago we had a lady who came in for a consultation on a divorce.  She seemed to get very upset with me because I told her we charged for a consult, but went ahead and made the appointment.  She came in and by the end of the consult she was quoted a retainer fee for any further services. 

Fast forward to a few weeks later, she calls in and I answer the phone.  She's wanting to speak to the attorney.  I politely explain to her our policy that the attorney will do nothing else until the retainer is paid.  She gets more upset and seems to be confused on why things work like this and wants to talk to the attorney.  So I tell her I will check with the attorney and put her on hold to do so.  The attorney tells me to quote her another amount for her to "talk" to her.  So I get back on the phone and explain this to her.  She is even more irate now.  (Hey man don't yell at the messenger I don't make the rules around here).  Anyway to make this long story short she eventually paid and it was a quick no-fault thing so we didn't have to see her much.  Then she comes in here with her mother (who speaks very little English) to finalize some things.   I'm not even helping her the office manager is.  She then calls me up to the front from the back of the office demanding to know my name (first AND last).  (now we've had some crazy clients or disgruntled other parties to cases so I'm leery about giving out info when people are irate).  I tell her I'm not comfortable giving her any info and she and her mother start screaming in Russian at me and then says she wants to speak to the attorney.  I go back and get my boss and she comes up front where they tell her that I was rude to them and so on and so forth…………I was like WTF???   So anyway my boss basically babied them and sent them on their way.  It totally freaked me out.  My boss said just to ignore them and that she knew I was just doing my job.  After that there I joked with the office manager about how they probably belong to the Russian Mafia and how they would probably bomb my car.  (so if you see that headline somewhere you'll totally know it was me)

So yesterday morning I come in, check our schedule to see what's on the agenda for the day and what do I see but "HER" coming in for another consult, for something different this time.  I was prepared for the worst.  We decided that the office manager would wait on her and collect the money.  They come (yes she brought her mother again) and I try to make myself as scarse as possible while they are here.  No screaming this time ………BUT I did check my car for little black boxes when I left……..

***Notice:  I am not discriminating against anyone so don't go crazy over it.  This is something that happened to me and no matter what nationality, if you were this crazy and came into my office I'd blog about you too.

Hell in a Handbasket

Do you think someone would go to hell if they jumped up and shook a preacher during a vacation bible school closing?  Well let's just say I came pretty close to doing this very thing last night. 

My mother in law asked me to help her with vacation bible school this week and I agreed that I would help her Mon., Tues., and Wed. and I would pack for the Beach the other two days and she would keep Queenie for me.  So last night was my first night of helping and we were both presently suprised that Queenie went to her toddler class and didn't cry for either one of us much.  I was so proud of her for being a big girl.  She's only 2 and she's going through some attachment issues probably because we've taken her passie away and potty training her at the same time.

So on with the story.  The church has a new pastor and he seemed to be very fun and he and his wife are also very young, around 25ish.  Like I said Queenie went to her class and did so well.  Her teacher brought her to our class right before the ending "rally" of VBS.  She was smiling and telling me what she did.  Then we went out for the rally and she saw the rest of her class and wanted to go sit with them………

let me stop for a minute and say that this church is tiny and usually only has about 15-20 members who attend on a regular basis, so the actual church building itself is not very big…………

 …….to continue………Queenie went to sit with her class when her teacher gave her a manilla envelope to give to me, so of course trots back accross the church to bring it to me.  She returns to her class and is sitting with the other kids and her teacher has her run me one more thing, so again she brings it to me and returns to her class.  I see her over there with the rest of the little kids and they're playing in the floor in front of the pew.  The pastor is talking to the congragation about how glad he is that everyone had come and what lesson they learned today and so on ……  Then I see Queenie get up and start back toward me at the exact moment she was walking right in front of the pastor he leans down puts his hand out and stops her.  At first I thought he was just kidding around with her but then he directed her to go back with her class and sit.  When she got back with her class and sat down her little lip poked out and my heart broke all at the same time.  She began to bawl and I guess my momma bear instincts hit me and my first reaction was to jump up and shake him and say "what the hell are you doing? she's just a baby".  MY baby, not his (he doesn't have any children).  I didn't shake the pastor (although I wanted to) I immediately got up and went to get her.  I believe her feelings were hurt more than anything else, but it still made me feel like he had no right!  She was just coming back to sit with me. 

So now I have to endure two more nights of helping with VBS and avoiding the pastor, because if not I do believe there will be a HOLY SMACKDOWN……………


It’s Official

I'm FAT!!! (don't worry this is not a weight loss blog, just someting I'm going through right now)

Of course anyone who's ever known me will think "damn she's just figuring that out".  I've been overweight most all of my life and at one point about 5 years ago I had lost a bunch of weight and wasn't skinny but felt really good about myself.  BUT… since then A LOT of things have changed.  About 4 years ago I started my current job, in which I sit at a desk all day on my ass.  I got married and acquired 2 step children to go with my 1 child I had already and then WHAM I got pregnant.  My youngest is now 2 and I'm the heaviest I've ever been.  I need to lose about 100 lbs and have made excuses for myself.  I realize I have NO will power and since I quit smoking about the same time I got my job I really have NO will power.

The thing is, you know when you're fat, you realize that.  BUT you just don't realize how fat you are until you have to buy a bathing suit.  That it when it really hit me.  I haven't worn a bathing suit in quite a while.  I got one last year for the beach but wore shorts and a shirt over it and i think I was about 20 lbs lighter then.  So were headed to the beach next week and I wanted to got try some bathing suits on and see if I though I could find one that fit and not be so uncomfortable in it that I felt like I had to cover it up.  Well I went and after some digging I finally found one big enough for me to wear and really like it on.  This is when I came to one BIG realization, I'm huge.  Have you ever been to a truck stop and seen the gag gift of these HUGE panties hanging on the wall.  Well that's what I felt my bathing suit was like.  When I held it up it was like I could of cut it up and made bathing suits for my whole family with it. 

Needless to say TheGrump and I are going to start diet and exercise once we get back from the beach.  Maybe if I hang the bathing suit in the kitchen that will be the will power I need to get my ass in shape. 

Wish me luck 🙂


Thursday Thirteen

THIRTEEN THINGS I am looking forward to in the next 2 weeks!

1…. VACATION!!!!!!

2. . Going to the beach and walking on the sand.

3.  Spending time with the kids.

4.  Spending time with TheGrump.

5.  Being away from work.

6.  Did I say VACATION!!! 🙂

7. Spending time with my best friend and her family that is going to the beach with us.

8.  Seeing the big kids have a great time.

9.  The step kids being away from their crazy mother and actually relaxing.

10.  Spending an entire 8 days together as a family.

11.  BEING AWAY FROM MY JOB (oh I said that already…..)

12.  Not having to deal with clients

13.  Taking a road trip.

Links to other Thursday Thirteens! 1. (leave your link in comments, I’ll add you here!)

Get the Thursday Thirteen code here!

The purpose of the meme is to get to know everyone who participates a little bit better every Thursday. Visiting fellow Thirteeners is encouraged! If you participate, leave the link to your Thirteen in others comments. It’s easy, and fun! Be sure to update your Thirteen with links that are left for you, as well! I will link to everyone who participates and leaves a link to their 13 things. Trackbacks, pings, comment links accepted!

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